Your friends and family may want what’s best for you, but that doesn’t mean that they have a full understanding of what you’re going through. When you go through a divorce, it’s a good idea to remember that what they may have experienced in the past might not be what you experience while going through your divorce.
Someone who divorced 10 or 20 years ago may have been affected by different laws or social norms than you’d be dealing with today. Similarly, someone who had a contentious divorce may not be familiar with all the ways you can resolve a divorce more peacefully.
When you’re divorcing, your situation may define your options
It’s necessary to get to know your legal rights and responsibilities as you begin to work through your divorce. That way, you can learn more about the options you have for resolving disputes or ways that you and your spouse can work together to move through the divorce in a respectful way. If you both are able to agree on how to move forward, then you may not even have to go to court.
Divorces aren’t always able to be decided outside of court
It’s the reality that not all divorces will be able to be settled outside of court. When you’re dealing with disputes, other people may have a lot of advice to give you. It’s better to avoid listening to what might have worked for others and to stick to looking only at the factors that influence your case.
Some people might suggest fighting for what you want, and others will tell you to settle and walk away. Instead of listening to those people, it’s a better idea to talk to your attorney about your goals and to see if there is a reasonable way to resolve your divorce disputes. If not, then you should take some time to go over what you’ll ask for if you litigate.
Every divorce is different, which is why talking to anyone not intimately familiar with your case won’t necessarily help. You need the right information and support to know what to expect.